Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Not so SWEET SIXTEEN

What is "biting your nose off to spite your face" saying???

Cultural Dictionary

Don't cut off your nose to spite your face


Don't engage in an act of anger or revenge that will hurt you more than it hurts anyone else.







This is exactly what my dear daughter has done and is doing...




We had every intention of ,when she was eligable to get her drivers licence, doing just that.

My prized RED JETTA Photobucket

is paid off and that is exactly what Whitney would have been driving TODAY. She was eligable for her licence yesterday, but instead of driving, I am still having to take her back and forth because she is so prideful and lacking in humility!




You would think this 16 year old would come to her daddy and I and say "Ive done some things wrong", but I want to repent and start over and be a daughter that would be pleasing to ya'll and the Lord, but NO that would require throwing out her pride, so instead, she'll keep up that big bad fassad and ride with me... It seems so simple to me. I guess its hard for her.




I keep thinking these are the years that she will remember, this should be good times for her. I think if I could do it for her I would, but I can't. I guess we could just give in and let her walk all over us, but no we can't!




There is not a particular thing she has done, its just "no respect". Not saying that she has done nothing, she has, but as her parents we forgive and move on. Our Father forgives us , so we are to forgive, which is hard sometimes, but we do try.

She has a phone, WE pay the bill every month, but she has not used it for months because: We don't owe her her a phone...it is a priveledge, and in order to have this priveledge you MUST be obedient to our rules. If you dont, we pay for a phone that NOBODY uses!

So many would say it is teenage rebellion, but thats just a cop out, an excuse for "teenagers" to be disrespectful. The bible does not allow it, in fact a disrespectful teen was brought out to "the gate" and stoned to death!




Deu 21:18
If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and [that], when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them:
Deu 21:19
Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place;
Deu 21:20
And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son [is] stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; [he is] a glutton, and a drunkard.
Deu 21:21
And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear, and fear.
Deu 21:22
And if a man have committed a sin worthy of death, and he be to be put to death, and thou hang him on a tree:
Deu 21:23
His body shall not remain all night upon the tree, but thou shalt in any wise bury him that day; (for he that is hanged [is] accursed of God;) that thy land be not defiled, which the LORD thy God giveth thee [for] an inheritance.




You wouldn't expect someone on the street to whom you've been rude and hateful to, to let you drive their car would you? Even in your house, if someone is continually rude and mean, I sure don't let them drive my car.




Now don't get me wrong. I love my daughter, but I don't owe her anything! I have loved, fed, nurtured,clothed, kept her warm, made sure no-one has harmed her. I have taken her to church, tried to instill good values and manners into her, tried to teach her right from wrong, shown the love of God to her, and I did not do these things so that she could be rude and nasty to me.




I realize that we are not the same person. My wants and likes are not necessarily her wants and likes. She's a whole lot more flambouant than I am. She likes somewhat gaudy jewelry, and different clothes than I do. I have for the most part catered to her style. I do draw the line on some things. I do not approve of, belly button rings, and she must be modest. I have shown her scripture backing up what I believe.


1Jo 2:15
Love not the world, neither the things [that are] in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

1Pe 2:9 But ye [are] a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light:
1Pe 2:10
Which in time past [were] not a people, but [are] now the people of God: which had not obtained mercy, but now have obtained mercy.
1Pe 2:11
Dearly beloved, I beseech [you] as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;

Rom 12:2
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Eph 2:2
Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience:




I have also told her that if she still feels strongly about getting her belly button pierced when she MOVES out , that will be entirely her business and none of mine, but as long as she lives here and seemingly does not have any convictions, she WILL live by mine! (Lester Roloff)

Things that please the world are not necessarily pleasing to the Lord, and we as christians are supposed to be "striving" to please the Lord

Jam 4:4
Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.



In the meanwhile...she is biting her nose off to spite her face.




I will not lie, it hurts me! I am so sad that she is acting like this. I want things for her, she wants them for herself, but she is not willing to throw out her foolish pride. I guess its just another one of our differences.
Dear Lord I pray that you would help her today. Make her pleasing in YOUR sight.

Where 'o where has my little girl gone?

I love you WHITNEY!








8 comments:

shainachristine said...

Thank you so much for your comment! Even a short little comment can brighten someones day sometimes :) Sometimes when I post things that could be "controversial" I start thinking "Oh man.. was I overreacting?" or "Should I not have said anything?" But I know this was something important because from what I've seen online, no one else has said anything about these WOF conferences.

Anyway, thank you very much :)

Gramma 2 Many said...

Two sorries for you.
1. That your darling daughter is giving you such heartache. Once when I was having problems with my son, I called my mother in tears. She assured me that one day I would wake up and he would be human again. I did and he was. Sometimes it seems a bit harder for some than others. He is human, but I am still waiting for him to return to the Lord. I cling to Acts 16:31 for that one.
2. I am sorry if my blog bothered you. I did not even consider that it would be offensive to anyone. For that I am sorry.

Washer Mom Val said...

Glenda, my heart aches - because I think shortly....the beginnings are now, this walk I'll walk too. You are so brave and walking with the Lord - I admire that. Hold firm. Not easy - being a parent is hard. Courtney asked if she could have a belly button ring - I told her when she was 18 and not living under my roof....maybe! Someday Whitney will have children and she'll be tested....and hold strong because of the awesome example of God's love and direction her Mom gave her. Blessings!

Gramma 2 Many said...

Oh good, I seriously debated removing it.

bringing up boys said...

Sometimes teenaged daughters take a very long time to come out of rebellion, right gramma? Then sometimes it is almost instantanious, I will be praying for the latter, because I don't want anyone to go through the hard way! BTW, Darian is 17 and no permit yet... He is currently carrying a 4.0 so it may actually be this quarter. (finally). College and Girlfriend had the influence that mommy did not...

Dee said...

I have been there..done that...with my daughter. It is like dealing with a drunk person when dealing with a teen. You are doing it right so far...just do not take anything personal. You do not want the perfect teen but a healthy adult. Now is the time to pray into her future..the right friend, teachers, school, husband ect.

Whitney said...

what a lovely blog!:)

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